Do you typically make positive assumptions or negative ones?
I have a story for you and I want to know how many of you can relate. You have kids who are just old enough to walk to and from school by themselves. They don’t arrive home when they’re supposed to, and you immediately think – that’s it they’re gone! They’ve been snatched by aliens! You’re calling, you’re texting… there’s no answer. You start panicking. You’re going through all these assumptions in your head. You start telling the story to your husband in your head – the kids are gone, here’s what happened, what are we going to do! And then, Bam! They’re FaceTiming you – they decided to make a pit-stop at the playground on the way home from school. Your heart rate slowly returns to normal.
The topic for today’s video is a assumptions.
It’s human nature to make assumptions. We make them all the time.
We think we know what’s going on and we make guesses on what we think all the time, and we think we’re right! But in reality it’s rarely the case, because we don’t know the whole story of what’s going on.
Here’s another example – you send a text message to a friend and they don’t respond and we immediately start thinking and making assumptions: are they mad at me? did I do something? what’s wrong? Maybe they’re just busy. It’s not always about you. Maybe you’re not their priority at that moment.
I have a confession to make: I make assumptions all the time and I made big assumptions about the work that I do and the industry that I’m in. And since I talk to people a lot about my job, I know that people make the same assumptions that I did.
So here’s the second part of my lesson.Find the courage to ask questions. Don’t make assumptions.Click To Tweet You don’t know the whole story until you ask.
Have an open mind. Learn about what you’re presuming.
And see how your assumptions stack up. Finally if you’re going to make assumptions about something, why not make them positive! Why not actually think that it’s something good. Your heart rate will thank you.
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