Significance and Acceptance
Humans naturally are generally chasing two things: significance and acceptance. So whichever one you're chasing is going to determine your fulfillment, your success, and your happiness. When we're chasing acceptance what we're doing is seeking the approval of someone else.Click To Tweet This means that we’re not being generally authentic with our approach and you know you’re not being open because all you’re really doing is trying to act in a way that seeks to get approval from someone else. So you’re not being authentic when you’re chasing significance, however, this implies that you’re important to someone and that you are bringing value to someone. You’re adding value to someone’s life. You’re thinking about others and how you help them. So instead of thinking, “How can I be accepted by somebody?”, think, “How can I add value to somebody?”.
How do I Evaluate and Change my Mindset?
That’s when things start to change. Have you ever found yourself in a relationship with someone where you found yourself constantly saying yes just to seek approval or to maintain a relationship? It doesn’t feel good. You’re just chasing acceptance when you’re in that kind of relationship. Often with our businesses when we’re seeking acceptance and approval, if we switch gears and we start thinking, “How can I add value to this relationship?”, then our strengths come out. We have a much more positive relationship with that person and we feel better about that relationship with that person. So as people, we’re never going to stop thinking both significance and acceptance, but when you seek acceptance you’re gonna get bitterness and anger. When you seek significance, acceptance becomes the byproduct of the relationship. So the best way to feel fulfilled is to focus on the significance that you can offer a relationship rather than acceptance. I hope that that helps you and strikes a chord.